Showing posts with label pornography. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pornography. Show all posts

Thursday, January 8, 2009

Screwtape's Strategies and Pornography


(Note: This is addressed most especially to fathers addicted to internet porn. I pray that you will gather enough strength to fight this plague menacing you and your family. Pray much to St. Joseph and seek help with other upright Christian men.)

Alias Screwtape

My Dear Wormwood:

For your careful review, I have outlined below our strategies for destroying faith and family life. Destroy this secret message immediately after reading it. This classified material comes from the lowest regions.

The chief way we attack the family is by neutralizing the protector. Once we neutralize the father, then the children are ours whenever and wherever we want them. And want them we do! Those despicable little ones make my black blood boil. Every time I see one of these wretched children, it reminds me of the Enemy's holiness and love of purity. Our plan is to attack their purity so that they will belong to us for all time. Therefore, we need only to neutralize the guardians of these little monsters - and then we can pollute their miserable souls.

Thankfully, my enemies in the modern era are slow to realize the importance of a father in protecting his family. They play into our hands when they think that a father's protective role ended in the bygone era when he defended the family against wild animals and invading savages. This incredible ignorance is utterly delightful! Little do they know that a father's guardianship of his family is more valuable now than at any time in history. Spiritually, they are sound asleep. For a little while they paid heed to the Enemy's warning to Pope Leo XIII about our plans for the modern era. It even looked like we would be defeated when our enemies enlisted the aid of our arch-opponent Michael. Fortunately, most of our little targets have forgotten about the arch-opponent Michael, and our plans proceed apace.

Towards the end of the century, just when our plans for destroying the faith by destroying the family were nearing completion, the Enemy sent that contemptible "pope for the family." (Pope John Paul II) Decades of work were at risk when for the first time in history a pope (Ugh! I hate that word!) wrote a letter directly to families throughout the world. Amazingly, he seemed to know just how to warn families about our subtle (and not so subtle) plans for destroying the family. When things looked as if our work was about to be undone - the most wonderful thing happened! The families of the world didn't even bother to read the contemptible pope's letter. Oh, how wonderful this was. In our lower realm there was rejoicing for months over the nearly complete apathy concerning this teaching.

Now as we begin this new millennium, we must use technology to bring our master plan to completion by utilizing Internet pornography. Already we have spiritually neutralized millions of the Enemy's men with pornography. Over the next few years we can surely make millions more spiritual midgets, who we can then manipulate at will.

With Internet pornography we can finally bring down the guardians of the Christian family. The fools still don't realize that the technological temptations are waging war against their very souls, bringing to completion an over-a-century long campaign to destroy the faith by destroying the family. Since it is working so exceedingly well, I suggest that we continue to use every technological innovation to pump pornography to Christian fathers. Just think of the wonderful new digital temptations we will soon be sending out over broadband!

Remember, every man addicted to pornography is caught in the snares of what the Enemy calls grave sin. With pornography we have crippled their ability to spiritually protect their families. After they are ensnared in pornography, their families (their marriages and their children) are vulnerable to our attacks. Sure, these men still appear fine on the outside as they go to church, but we know that their hearts have been captured by pornography.

And since sons usually follow in the father's footsteps, the sins of the fathers will run down through the generations, and we can rest assured that the future generations will belong to us.

A delightful by-product of pornography addiction is that it is so effective in creating turmoil in marriages. Of course, we have been attempting to destroy marriages as a vital part of our overall plan. A husband's pornography addiction has shown a unique ability to undermine trust and intimacy between spouses. The addiction creates turmoil, heartbreak, and bewilderment in the hearts of those detestable Christian wives.

As far as Sundays in church go, there is only one thing to do. Just make sure things stay as they are - nice and quiet. The last thing we need are homilies about specific sins, like pornography. If a damaging homily is somehow preached, make sure you scramble any attempts to organize support groups to assist men unable to free themselves from our work. Just let the poor devils struggle alone - of course we know that they are not alone in their pornography addiction, don't we?

Finally, we must keep up our guard against the Head of THAT family (St. Joseph). Never forget how the Head of THAT family was used by the Enemy to ruin our dear servant Herod's plans to kill the so-called Holy One (Christ). There are centuries-old rumors from the upper regions that the Head of THAT family will be brought into service at a critical time in history. The last thing we want is a repeat of the first century.

It has taken immense effort, but we have managed to thoroughly confuse modern man (and much of the church) about the meaning of true manhood and masculinity. We need impure men, especially fathers, to continue leading the culture towards our regions. We must therefore keep fathers from contact with the Head of THAT family, so that they don't have any effective models of manly purity and righteousness.

Yet we need to be realistic in our strategies. If we cannot keep men away from the Unmentionable One, then at least we can chip away at some of the truth to keep things manageable for us. Keep their beliefs abstract. Men look up to tangible role models. Just be sure they don't discover the Enemy's perfect model for fathers, or our plans will get derailed. We can never hope to lead fathers devoted to that so-called "Just Man" deeper into the depraved delights of pornography.

Yours Diabolically,
Screwtape

(Source: dads.org)

Monday, January 5, 2009

Effects of Pornography



Note: I got this article from the ProLife Philippines website. This is in line with my online campaign against pornography. To all bloggers out there I hope you can also blog about your personal experience in dealing with porn or maybe somebody else's story. This can help raise awareness on the danger of online porn.

Pornography and sadistic violence debases sexuality, corrode human relationships, exploit individuals especially women and young people, undermine marriage and family life, foster antisocial behavior and weaken the moral fiber of society itself.

Pornography and Violence in the Communications Media: A Pastoral Response

Pornography is a cancer that permanently damages the minds and lives of people. No one can consider himself or herself immune to its corrupting effects. Dr. Victor Cline, clinical Psychologist and Professor at the University of Utah, has found "a near universal 4-Factor Syndrome" among users of pornography.

First, Cline says, there is an addicting effect. Everybody is vulnerable to this type of addiction, from the most dangerous sex offenders as well as the normal person. People get hooked on milder pornography and feel like coming back for more and still more, as powerful as drugs.

Dr. James L. McGough of the University of California in his research on memory sounded a warning: "If a person is emotionally, including sexually aroused at the time of experiencing or witnessing something, a chemical called epinephrine is released into the bloodstream. It goes to the brain and looks in a very vivid memory of the experience or event. We all have a library of unwanted images mostly sexual. We may hate them, but the epinephrine has locked them in and we cannot get rid of them, no matter how pious, how religious or how strong a conscience we have. Second, according to Cline, there is an escalation effect. The milder porn is no longer enough to satisfy. So, the user wants more explicit, rougher, more deviant kinds of sexual materials for sexual "highs" or "turn-ons". Third, the porn addict undergoes disensitization. With continued exposure, what at first offends becomes acceptable and then craved no matter how gross or deviant. Repeatedly seeing the obscene and offensive material makes it seem normal, rendering individuals morally numb and personally insensitive to the rights and dignity of others. It can be most confusing especially to children, who may not be able to distinguish readily between fantasy and reality, therefore regard this as acceptable behavior, suitable for imitation.

Leading sexual violence researchers Neil Malamuth, Ed Donnerstein, and Dolf Zillman state agree with Cline and state that in general, "exposure to these materials, whether violent or nonviolent, coercive or non-coercive, experimentally increases male aggressive behavior against women, and decreases both male and female sensitivity to rape and the plight of the rape victim. Both males and females, after viewing this material, judge the female rape victim to be less injured, less worthy, and more responsible for her own plight." In the fourth and final step, Dr. Cline states, "My patients begin to act out what they have been viewing. They turn their fantasies into reality." The sight of obscene pictures stimulates the sexual urge. This leads to another sensation, the desire to release the turbulent emotion, at the start, mostly through masturbation. If a sexual partner is available, he "acts out" what he sees in the porn material with his partner. Other tendencies to act out come in the form of compulsive promiscuity, exhibitionism, group sex, voyeurism, frequenting of massage parlors, child molestation, rape, etc.

Pornography proclaims men's control over women, primarily for sexual satisfaction. It reduces women to the level of useful object for men's pleasure and use. Thus, sexual activity is considered as a continuing frenzied search for personal gratification rather than as an expression of enduring love in marriage, therefore undermining a healthy and wholesome family life.

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Pro-Life Forum on Porn

Note: Please forward this announcement to all people concerned.


An Invitation To The Pro-Life Forum On

“The Pornography Plague”
(La Plaga de la Pornografía)

Designed for parents, guardians, teachers, counselors/life coaches, youth group advisers, catechists, pastors, lay leaders, social workers, students, and all those who deal with issue on pornography

Date :
Friday, December 5, 2008

Time:
8:00 am – 12:00 nn (registration starts at 7:30 a.m.)

Venue:
Bahay Ugnayan, Good Shepherd Convent Compound
1043 Aurora Blvd, Quezon City
(in front of PSBA and beside Katipunan LRT2 North Exit)

Fee :
P150.00 (includes snacks, handouts, and certificate)

Guest Speaker:
Ms. Ma. Perlita “Teacher Phil” E. de Leon
Faculty, Family Life and Child Development Department University of the Philippines

Pornography is tearing apart the very fabric of our society today. Yet, many of us are often ignorant of its impact and apathetic about the need to control this menace.

Listen and be enlightened by “Teacher Phil” as she presents the status of pornography in the Philippines and its psycho-social effects especially on today’s youth, counterpointed by the biblical perspective of pornography and human sexuality. Be there and share your insights during the forum discussion on how to combat pornography.

For reservations or more information, please call Ellen at 422-8877 or 911-2911. Or, you may send us a telefax at 421-7147; a text through mobile# 0919-2337783; or an email at life@prolife.org.ph. Visit our website at www.prolife.org.ph.

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

How to Erase all Sexual Thoughts

Interesting article on how to control thoughts, particularly lustful thoughts, that bug us every now and then. I hope you find this helpful.

Thursday, October 30, 2008

Helpful Site on Porn Addiction


A kind friend forwarded this link to me and I want to share this to all struggling with pornography like me. The site is porn-free.org. Very informative site.
How Porn Works
Pornography in its various forms has become accessible to just about anyone. With the help of the internet, videos, cable television, satellite and magazines, thousands... or possibly millions of people are becoming addicted to pornography every day. Though the sex industry downplays the impact of porn on society, the truth is that pornography profoundly damages people.
Pornography images are designed to appeal to our human tendencies toward lust and "sexual idolatry." Let's examine these tendencies more closely:

Lust: Webster's Dictionary defines lust as "intense or unbridled sexual desire," "an intense longing: craving" and a "conscious impulse toward something that promises enjoyment or satisfaction in its attainment." The problem with lust is that it is based in selfishness and works contrary to love. In fact, it is the opposite of love (see lust vs. love). When fed, it can grow into an uncontrollable force in a person's life. Like a wildfire, lust can consume a person's resources, time and attention.

The Bible identifies 2 basic types of lust that people are tempted by: "lust of the eyes" and "lust of the flesh" (1 John 2:15-17). Pornography caters to both types by providing visual stimulation that appeals to our "fleshly" desire for sex (more about lust). It also gives us lifelong fuel for lust through the memories of the sexual images. With the help of special hormones released in the brain during sexual arousal, porn images are retained in our memories much longer than non-sexual memories.

Sexual Idolatry: Idolatry is the "worship of a physical object as a god" or an "immoderate attachment or devotion to something." Worship means to show "extravagant respect or admiration for or devotion to an object of esteem" (both from Webster's Dictionary). Many people may not realize that pornography has helped them develop an immoderate or extravagant devotion to sex. Gazing at pornography for hours, masturbating to sexual images and repeatedly fantasizing about sex are basically forms of worshipping sex. People who practice such activities find that sexual images seem to rise to the top and forefront of their thoughts. Their minds become a type of "mental altar" for sex (more about sexual idolatry).
Unfortunately, pornography' s powerful appeal leads many into sexual addiction. A life dedicated to pornography, or even just seasoned with occasional viewing of it can become considerably darkened by the many harmful side effects. Here are just a few of the many possible side effects of pornography addiction that we've witnessed:

Perversions (homosexuality, bestiality, bisexuality, transexuality, fetishes, etc.)
Irritability
Sexual imbalance
Sexual dissatisfaction
Masturbation
Lies & deception
Uncontrolled thoughts
Spiritual oppression
Marital strife / destruction / divorce
Corrupted perception of reality
Warped interpersonal skills
Reclusiveness
Fear
Increased tendency toward sexual crime
Guilt & condemnation
Loss of Hope
Depression
Inability to give or receive love
Spiritual death
Torment
Depraved mind
Darkened understanding
Loss of discernment between good & evil
Promiscuity
Lustful eye
Many of the above effects reflect the fact that there is a spiritual aspect of pornography and sex addiction. Jesus gave us a clue about this in Matthew 6:22-23 NIV: "The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eyes are bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!" Porn is a form of darkness that follows the rule Jesus described. When people view pornography, they open a "doorway" in their lives through their eyes to darkness. The resultant effects of that darkness can be seen in our list above.

Power for Freedom is AvailableWe have found that a person desiring freedom from sexual addiction will need spiritual help in order to gain complete freedom. The only source we know of for reliable and decisive help is Jesus Christ. We have experienced this addiction-breaking power and are happy to share more info about it with anyone who is interested.
Source: Porn-free.Org

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Setting Boundaries

Great article with practical tips and advice about Setting Boundaries to avoid addiction relapse.

Monday, July 21, 2008

Porn is a Depressant



Great article here about the effects of pornography on our mood. I never really thought much about this before. It's interesting to note that in my case it's either boredom or some form of stress that makes me vulnerable to view online porn, which later on is followed by masturbation, and then some regret and a sense of a loss of self-control.

Saturday, May 3, 2008

Surfing Porn at Work


I just want to share this news article with regard to surfing porn at work. In my last company, I had an officemate who was caught surfing "erotic" websites during work hours. Apparently, he thought he was clever enough to outwit the IT personnel. He was dead wrong. Our boss talked to him immediately and told him to come back the next day and submit a written explanation. He did not report to work from that day on, perhaps out of shame. Morale of the story: Don't forget to clear the history of your visited sites! (just kidding).

When you need to use internet at work for personal use, ask permission from your boss. It's the way to go.

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Porn According to Manoling Morato


Below is an excerpt of an interview made by ANC host Ms. Luchi Cruz-Valdes with former MTRCB chair Manoling Morato. I found their conversation very interesting.

''Breasts that look like dried prunes not porn'. Two breasts equal pornography--with exceptions. says Manoling Morato.

Ms. Luchi-Cruz Valdes asked if he agreed with the rules that specified that one breast could be shown, not two. "It depends," said Morato. It is all right if the breast is shown sideways and nudged slightly into sight, but not if the full breast is shown.

Valdes attempted to ask him again. "Some people will say, two breasts: pornographic. One breast: acceptable. What is it for you?"

Morato responded that he believed there was an exception to the one-breast rule.

"You know I did allow that film with two-breast exposure. I forgot the name of that, it was, I think, Fatal Attraction. But the breasts of that actress, what's her name--"

"Glenn Close, I think," supplied Valdes.

"--were like prunes," Morato said. "They looked dried, like a prune, and it wasn't tempting at all. I allowed it all."

Valdes followed up. "So it's okay to show breasts as long as they're as big as prunes?"

"No, they were dried as prunes. They were regular breasts, but they were not attractive."

No comment here. I don't know what to say.
Kudos to Congressman Bienvenido Abante of the 6th District of Manila for always taking up the cudgel against pornography.

On the issue of why Playboy magazine should not be allowed to be published in the Philippines, the respectable congressman commented: "Dapat ba pati kalibugan ng tao pinagkakakitaan?"

Very well said. You're the man!

Thursday, April 3, 2008

Filters Are Not Enough


I have been using an internet filter for quite some time now and I could say it is very effective in minimizing my exposure to internet pornography. Great job K9! In my case, I have discovered a way around the filter unfortunately. Recently, my PC got reformatted so that means I have to reinstall the internet filter again. This time I know the password! hah! Before, I even invited a friend over to my place so he can install the filter with his set of password. Now, I have yet to find an accountability partner if I ever want to seriously overcome my porn addiction.

Here's the thing. When you install the K9 filter, make sure your buddy will do that for you. He will provide the "password" and both of you must agree to use your buddy's e-mail address during registration. Why? Because if you use your own e-mail address, you can bypass the filter by requesting a temporary password and this will be sent to your e-mail address.


So now you get it. No more cheating this time. Here is where the importance of an accountability partner comes in. It is difficult to do it all by yourself. You need help. I need help. A priest confessor once counseled me that the best filter is the "heart filter". The internet filter he says is fine, but it can only do as much. I agree.

So for those of you who want to install this free antiporn/filtering software, please click on this link: K9 Web Protection

Good bye porn! (fingers crossed)