Thanksgiving

It's Thanksgiving Holiday today in the US. That means no work (read: no income) for me today. You see I work in the BPO industry. We do not necessarily follow the local holidays here in the Philippines and today is one such holiday that is uniquely American. I wonder if the American people in general feel like being thankful today considering the economic situation in the US.

On the other hand, don't you wish we have the same here? Well, I know we already have more than enough fiestas and holidays throughout the year, but what is nice about Thanksgiving is the idea behind the celebration - that is, to be thankful and grateful for everything, even if we're in for the not so good times. Personally, how I wish I can develop this "attitude of gratitude" in whatever situation I might find myself to be in. You see, being grateful when things aren't going my way is not second nature to me. I'm guilty of complaining and comparing myself to others. Indeed it is easy to feel grateful when things are going your way. But when challenging situations confront you, what should you do?

Maybe we can view it in a more positive light and that there is still something good that can come out of it. When you don't feel like being grateful, look around you and observe. You might realize that despite your situation, you're still better off compared to others. I say this so that we may realize how blessed we are still and this should make us realize that grumbling won't make things better. Perhaps, difficult times challenge us to take actions we've never taken before. It may be upsetting but try to dig deeper into the situation. Whatever situation we might find ourselves to be in, we must learn to be thankful. Isn't it that the happiest people around are those who are grateful, simple, and cheerful? Isn't it true that happiness can be found in life's simple pleasures?

Now, that's something to be hopeful about and maybe from now on we can practice to be a little grateful for things both big and not so big.

Happy Thanksgiving!

How to Erase all Sexual Thoughts

Interesting article on how to control thoughts, particularly lustful thoughts, that bug us every now and then. I hope you find this helpful.

On Purity by St. John Bosco

I am presently reading a booklet I bought at a Catholic bookstore years ago entitled "The Way to Heaven". It deals with the topic of chastity in the life of St. John Bosco, founder of the Salesian order. I am amazed how John Bosco practiced this virtue in his lifetime so as to make him more angelic than human. I want to share some pointers from the book on safeguarding chastity, which according to St. John Bosco is a very delicate virtue that makes men like unto angels. He loved this virtue so much so as to make it the hallmark of his congregation just as much as the Franciscans are well known for the virtue of poverty.

Nine Safeguards for the Holy Virtue of Purity

1. Avoid idleness.

I must admit that I am most vulnerable to succumbing to sexual temptations when I am idle and alone.

2. Shun bad companions.

Unfortunately they are all around us - a vexation to the spirit. You don't have to hang out with these people.

3. Associate with good companions.

These are the people you should make friends with. These are the good guys and fortunate are you to find even just one.

4. Go to confession frequently.

If you can't stomach not taking a bath at least once a day, then give your soul a "spiritual bath" at least once a month - that's how Pope John Paul II defined frequent confession - at least once a month. Of course, you can receive it as often and as frequent as you would like but be sure to make each confession a good one.

5. Receive communion often.

Don't you dare receive the Body and Blood of Our Lord if you're conscious of mortal sin. You must have recourse to Confession first before you can receive communion. Receiving communion in a state of mortal sin is sacrilegious; you'll just end up deeper in the pit.

6. Pray to Mary often.

I won't argue with our Protestant brothers about this, but as Catholics we pray to the Blessed Mother because we venerate her and we know how powerful Her intercession is before God. You cannot afford to ignore Mary in working out your salvation because all graces that come from God is dispensed by Her.

7. Hear Mass devoutly.

Don't be contented with attending masses on Sundays and holy days of obligation. If you have free time during the week, attend an extra mass or better yet attend it daily with as much devotion as you can muster. It's all for your own good. Offer masses for the Poor Souls as well coz one day you might end up as one of them and how you would wish that others pray in your behalf.

8. Make up for past faulty confessions.

So, you're going to confession regularly, but you keep falling into the same sins over and over. Perhaps, you don't have a firm purpose of amendment like me. Well, don't lose heart. Make an effort to make every confession as contrite and sincere as possible, and pray hard for the grace to amend your wrong ways and to overcome your weaknesses.

9. In Mary's honor, make small but frequent acts of self-denial.

Offer it all up to Our Lady and She will help you. You see, self-denial is indispensable if you want to live a chaste life because a life of chastity is a life of renunciation, self-discipline, and yes sacrifice too.

On the Virtue of Chastity:

"Where there is chastity, there too are all the other virtues, because chastity attracts them all. Without chastity, all other virtues are nonexistent. Chastity must be the pivot upon which all our actions revolve...nowadays, sterling modesty and chastity are a must. If you love this virtue which is so delicate, and tender, you will be like angels of God. By cherishing this virtue, you will acquire the holy fear of God and peace of heart.

You will have no further anguish or pangs of conscience, but only a fervor in things which pertain to God's worship and a readiness to suffer anything for His sake. Possessing this virtue, we can be sure we are walking along the right path, even our most insignificant actions will be pleasing to God. We shall thus earn countless merits and be certain of one day attaining our immortal reward, the full possession of God in our heavenly home.

Let us therefore make every effort to shun any thought which may dim this virtue ever so slightly, any glance or touch of ourselves or others, for as I again repeat, all other virtues which we may acquire are dependent on chastity. What will help us most to safeguard it jealously is obedience in all things. These two virtues go hand in hand and one who is perfectly obedient can also be sure of possessing the inestimable treasure of purity.

Let us earnestly implore the Lord for it because if He grants us chastity we shall not need anything else. Simply by keeping chaste we shall obtain every good joy from heaven."

- St. John Bosco

Understanding Abuse Part 2

Sexual Abuse

One of the most devastating forms of power inflicted on children is sexual abuse. Molestation is any act of sexual power (overt or covert) that is forced upon a child under 18 years old. For too long our culture has defined sexual abuse in terms of genital contact. Sexual abuse can encompass any act of sexual power - from intercourse to voyeurism (being sexually leered at). Children were never designed by God to contain within their souls (and bodies) any form of adult sexual energy. This sexual power can leave different forms or intensities of destruction. This is manifested in how a child feels about his or her body, sense of protection, ability to trust, and personal safety.

Many adults who experienced sexual abuse as teenagers feel guilty and personally responsible, especially if pleasurable feelings arose in them. Also devastating can be the sad truth that legitimate longings for love, concern, and attention were met perversely by the abuser. Adults are solely responsible for their sexual energies and are accountable for misusing their power by crossing boundaries with children.

Healing

Defining abuse is much easier than summarizing the process of healing. That's because abuse affects every facet of one's being and there is no simplistic process to the healing of the soul. At the same time, healing is simple. It involves applying the restorative power of Jesus to the destruction, and calling the victim to live out of his or her true personhood.

The Wound

I see healing of the soul as two simultaneous processes. The first is allowing the Presence of Christ to enter the injured places - the memories, feelings, and beliefs that formed around the wound. An abusive experience untreated will have some form of defense around it. It can be a conscious or unconscious mechanism attempting to keep unbearable pain to a minimum, but the defense ironically keeps the wound from being healed. The Holy Spirit's desire is to enter the memory (the wound) and begin to heal the damage. This usually involves a time of grieving over the event. Most victims need a "season" of mourning the fact that a very bad thing happened. This is especially true when the person has repressed or suppressed memories and feelings.

As the pain is submitted to Christ, He takes it into Himself on the cross. With a consistent practice of bringing memories and feelings into the presence of the Lord, Jesus can begin to fill them in with truth, joy, objectivity, authority, and victory. The memory doesn't disappear - Jesus doesn't rewrite history - but the destructive residue left from the force of the abuse is cleansed out and replaced with His presence and healing intention.

Defenses

The second process of healing (ironically the area we wish not to face) is our defensive and/or sinful reactions to abuse. These are areas of personal responsibility. When fearlessly and humbly faced, the victim can choose to give them up. These defense mechanisms once served a purpose in childhood by covering the wounds. But like a cheap bandage, they have outlived their purpose and must be removed. Without their removal, the Lord will not have complete access to the injury. His desire to heal will be hindered, and we will continue to use the defenses to block future pain.

Some of these defenses are denial (not remembering or feeling), passivity and fear, taking personal responsibility where that responsibility belonged to another, secrecy, inner vows, compulsive behaviors and addictions, and not forgiving. Each of these areas must be soberly recognized in our lives and brought into the Lord's light. In the security of His presence, we can find the courage to let go of our old ways of defending ourselves.

The Long Road

God's love and faithfulness won't stop until He's finished with us. All the wounding from the past can find its end at the foot of the cross. To our amazement, like a sunrise overtaking darkness, the good things of life which were always an arms reach away can become our own. Life won't be perfect, but very good, filled with the joy and the fruit of the Spirit. Best of all, we become holy and obedient people of God.


www.desertstream.org

Understanding Sexual Abuse

Understanding Sexual Abuse
by Shawn Corkery

The subject of abuse has skyrocketed in the American consciousness over the past few years. It seems every month another scandal, court case, or testimony fills the airwaves. Such media saturation shocks us, and can eventually make us numb to the destruction accrued in so many people's lives.

No matter how overwhelming it may seem, abuse will not go away. The cork on denial has been lifted off, and will probably continue to saturate until our society.

Sadly, the secular world has little power to stop abuse or to provide powerful healing for victims. Social service agencies can provide some immediate help for victims but affords them no long-term solutions.

The good news for Christians is that we have a healing answer! Though not quick or simplistic, we have the real capacity to heal abuse. The answer is in the person and power of Jesus Christ. Unlike the world, which can rely only on human means, followers of Christ have One greater than themselves to help heal abuse. He enters into our pain and despair then leads us out of the destruction accrued from abuse. Jesus, whose divine nature and desire redeems humanity, can heal victims of abuse. Victimization can come to an end through Christ's intervention.

Defining Abuse

To help apply the Lord's power to this problem, we need to understand abuse better. Childhood abuse, in all forms, can be defined as any act of power that is forced upon a child that leaves destruction. A good image for this would be a weapon (a bullet, spear, arrow, etc.). A weapon's capacity for destruction can be determined by the amount of power behind it. A weapon first makes contact with a person's body at the skin - our outside defense. The weapon then makes its way inside the body where it leaves destruction (tears flesh, breaks bones). If a wound is not addressed properly, infection will eventually set in.

Abuse is like a weapon to the soul (body and spirit). It is any act - physical, sexual, emotional, spiritual, or neglect - with a force of power behind it, which penetrates personal safety and boundary, then enters the soul where it causes destruction. Because secrecy is usually needed for abuse to occur, most wounds go untreated, and become infected with shame, self-hatred, and spiritual oppression.

The power behind the act (or weapon) is the key factor. Abuse is measured not by the act itself, but by the destruction it leaves. It is very easy for adults to minimize their own childhood experiences of abuse by saying "Oh, it wasn't that bad. A lot of people had it worse than me." The problem is focusing on the event, not on the effects that it left in their hearts and souls. It would be like saying "I was only wounded by a pinprick," but the pin entered the body and punctured major nerves and arteries.

Part 2 to be continued...

The Power of the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass

Note: Many people do not realize the infinite value of the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass. I hope these statements from the Popes and the Saints will help us realize what we are missing. After reading this post, think about setting an extra day in the week to attend Mass besides the usual Sunday Mass. Offer this for your personal intentions, for your loved ones, or for the souls in Purgatory.

The Power of the Mass

The Greatest Prayer

The Tremendous Blessings and Benefits of the Mass as Told by Popes and Saints

Pope Paul VI
"The Mass is the most perfect form of prayer!"

Pope Benedict XV
"The Holy Mass would be of greater profit if people had it offered in their lifetime, rather than having it celebrated for the relief of their souls after death."

St. Thomas Aquinas, Doctor of the Church
"The celebration of Holy Mass is as valuable as the death of Jesus on the cross."

St. Gregory, Doctor of the Church
"The heavens open and multitudes of angels come to assist in the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass."

"It is most true that he who attends Holy Mass shall be freed from many evils and from many dangers, both seen and unseen."

St. Augustine, Doctor of the Church
"The angels surround and help the priest when he is celebrating Mass."

"He who devoutly hears holy Mass will receive a great vigor to enable him to resist mortal sin, and there shall be pardoned to him all venial sins which he may have committed up to that hour."

"He [who attends Mass with all possible devotion] shall be freed from sudden death, which is the most terrible stroke launched by the Divine Justice against sinners. Behold a wonderful preservative against sudden death."

St. Jerome, Doctor of the Church

"Without doubt, the Lord grants all favors which are asked of Him in Mass, provided they be fitting for us; and, which is a matter of great wonder, oftentimes He also grants that also which is not demanded of Him, if we, on our part, put no obstacle in the way."

St. John Chrysostom, Doctor of the Church
"When Mass is being celebrated, the sanctuary is filled with countless angels who adore the divine victim immolated on the altar."

St. Anselm, Doctor of the Church
"A single Mass offered for oneself during life may be worth more than a thousand celebrated for the same intention after death."

St. Teresa, Doctor of the Church

Once, St. Teresa was overwhelmed with God's goodness and asked Our Lord "How can I thank you?" Our Lord replied, "ATTEND ONE MASS."

St. Leonard of Port Maurice
"The principal excellence of the most Holy Sacrifice of the Mass consists in being essentially, and in the very highest degree, identical with that which was offered on the Cross of Calvary: with this sole difference that the sacrifice on the Cross was bloody, and made once for all, and did on that one occasion satisfy fully for all the sins of the world; while the sacrifice of the altar is an unbloody sacrifice, which can be repeated an infinite number of times, and was instituted in order to apply in detail that universal ransom which Jesus paid for us on Calvary."

"I believe that were it not for the Holy Mass, as this moment the world would be in the abyss, unable to bear up under the mighty load of its iniquities Mass is the potent prop that hold the world on its base."

"Be now confounded for very wonder, reflecting that the proposition just laid down is indeed most true; a soul assisting with adequate devotion at Holy Mass renders more honor to God than that which all the Angels and all the Saints put together render with all their adorations."

"And, yet, with the holy Sacrifice of the Mass, viewed according to its intrinsic preciousness and value, satisfaction may be made completely for committed sin ... Not that the Sacrifice of the Mass by any means cancels our sins immediately, and of itself, as does the Sacrament of Penance: but it cancels them mediately, calling down various aids of interior impulse, of holy aspiration, and of actual grace, all tending toward a worthy repentance of our sins, either at the time of the Mass itself or at some other fitting time."

"O blessed Mass, by which we come to have the Son of God placed not within our arms but within our hearts, nor is there a doubt but that with Him, and Him alone, we shall be able to satisfy the debt of gratitude which we have contracted with God."

"It is in our power by means of it to pay the fourth debt due to God, which is to supplicate Him, and to entreat new graces of Him. ... Yes, yes: in holy Mass our dear beloved Jesus, as the chief and supreme Priest, recommends our case to the Father, prays for us and makes Himself our advocate. ... How can you doubt but that He wishes to give you all the virtues and all the perfections which are required to make you a saint, and a great saint, in Heaven?"

"What graces, gifts and virtues the Holy Mass calls down ... repentance for sin ... victory over temptation ... holy inspirations which dispositions to shake off tepidity ... the grace of final perseverance, upon which depends our salvation ... temporal blessings, such as peace, abundance and health ..."

In having Masses said for the suffering souls in Purgatory: "The holy Mass not only shortens their pains but also extends great immediate relief to those poor souls .. the charity you exercise toward poor souls under purification will all redound to your own good."

In having Masses said for your own soul: "... get celebrated all the Masses possible in your circumstances not only for the souls departed but for your own. Do this for two motives: first to obtain a good and holy death - it being the invariable opinion of theologians that there is no more efficacious means for attaining so holy a purpose. Another motive is that you may yourself issue quickly from Purgatory and fly away into eternal glory, there being no means more adapted for obtaining from God a grace so precious as that of going direct to Heaven, or at least a short detention on the way, than Indulgences duly gained, and the holy Sacrifice."

St. John Vianney
Patron Saint of Parish Priests
"When we receive Holy Communion, we experience something extraordinary - a joy, a fragrance, a well being that thrills the whole body and causes it to exalt."

"If we really understood the Mass, we would die of joy."

"There is nothing so great as the Eucharist. If God had something more precious, He would have given it to us."

"When we have been to Holy Communion, the balm of love envelops the soul as the flower envelops the bee."

Saint Padre Pio, stigmatic priest
"It would be easier for the world to survive without the sun than to do without Holy Mass."

Revelation of Christ to St. Gertrude the Great
For each Mass we hear with devotion, Our Lord sends a saint to comfort us at death.

Revelation of Christ to St. Mechtilde
He who is in the habit of devoutly hearing Holy Mass shall in death be consoled by the presence of the angels and saints, his advocates, who shall bravely defend him from all the snares of infernal spirits.

Recommended books:
1. Hidden Treasure, Holy Mass, by St. Leonard of Port Maurice.
2. The Incredible Catholic Mass, by Fr. Martin von Cochem.

Note: Register the living and the dead - and please be *sure* to register yourself (will anyone really and truly have masses said for you after you die?). And rememeber, all registrations are permanent.

http://www.holysouls.com/enter.htm

Boycott Pepsi

Forwarded email: I got this email about Pepsi supporting the gay agenda. Please read the entire email.

EVIL THRIVES WHEN GOOD MEN DO NOTHING.

Please help us get this information into the hands of as many peopleas possible by forwarding it to your entire e-mail list of family and friends. Pepsi Company gives $500,000 to promote the gay agenda in workplace. Company ignores two requests from AFA to discuss Pepsi's support of gay groups. Take Action! E-mail Chairman Indra K. Nooyi. Tell her that you expect Pepsi to stop supporting the gay agenda. After sending your e-mail, please call Pepsi (914-253-2000)(800-960-3602) and ask the company to remain neutral in the culture war. Forward this e-mail to your friends and family so they will know about Pepsi's support of the gay agenda.

Pepsi's products include Pepsi soft drinks, Frito-Lay chips (800-352-4477) , Quaker Oats (800-367-6287) , Tropicana (800-237-7799) and Gatorade (800-367-6287) . On November 14, 2008, Pepsi has given Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) a half-million dollars to help push the homosexual agenda in the workplace. PFLAG is a political advocacy group that promotes radical homosexual political causes like same-sex marriage, hate-crime laws, and gay adoption. Pepsi has a long tradition of financial support for homosexual groups. According to Jacqueline Millan, director of PepsiCo CorporateContributions, "We are delighted to continue our partnership with PFLAG...(in) promoting the necessary message of inclusion to untapped groups...and that is a crucial step toward building a healthy working environment. "Despite the fact that 30 states have passed constitutional amendments defining marriage as being between a man and a woman, Pepsi continues to support the efforts by same-sex groups pushing for homosexual marriage. AFA wrote Pepsi on October 14 and again on October 29 asking the company to remain neutral in the culture war. Pepsi didn't care enough to respond to the AFA letters. Pepsi's lack of response indicates the company plans to continue support for the homosexual agenda.

Thank you for caring enough to get involved. If you feel our efforts are worthy of support, would you consider making a small tax-deductible contribution to help us continue?

Sincerely,
Donald E. Wildmon
Founder and Chairman American Family Association

Voltes V Ending Song

If you grew up in the 80s, you surely are a fan of this well-loved Japanese anime. I just feel like posting it here coz I love the ending song. By the way, here is the lyrics:

Oya ni hagureta
hinadori mo
Itsuka wa yasashii
hutokoro ni
Kaeru ashita mo aru darou
Danoni naze meguri aenu
chichi no kage

Naku mono ka
Boku wa otoko da
Shinjiteru shinjiteru
Sono hi no koto wo
Kono te de chichi wo
Daki shimeru hi no koto wo

Understanding Homosexuality Part 2

Are "they" born that way?

The teaching of Scripture is that God intended men and women to experience relational completion - an easing of aloneness - through union with a partner who is sexually distinct from them, and who can thus be a true helpmate and companion in life.

"So God created man in His own image...male and female He created them...The Lord God said, "It is not good from the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." (Gen 1:27, 2:18)

Homosexuality is a relational brokenness that scripture reveals as contrary to God's creative intent for humanity's sexuality. In light of this, one can be sure that whether homosexuality is the result of developmental causes or inborn characteristics, it is not the result of an act of creation by God.

But is it inborn? Much research has been done to explore potential genetic or hormonal contribution to the origins of homosexuality. No conclusive evidence has yet to be found. The exploration continues, with most experts citing a variety of influences that include culture, family-of-origin, biological factors, and one's own reaction to these influences. At Desert Stream, we believe that biological factors influence the formation of personality. Our personalities in turn will partially determine how and why we act and react to the influences around us. Some personality types, when paired with other factors, may be more prone than other types to developing homosexual tendencies.

Is there hope for healing?

Homosexuality is clearl a two-fold condition. A fallen world imposes wounds, fears, identity confusion, and alienation; people react with sinful choices in an attempt to restore what has been broken and gain consolation in the midst of pain and need. Yet the goal remains unreached; the promise of real, lasting fulfillment proves to be all too elusive.

Jesus Christ is the alternative. He addresses the problem - humanity limited to self - and provides the way through which we can find fulfillment in God and His people. By releasing us from the dictates of the past, Jesus frees us to live as new creatures. The Holy Spirit carries on that process of change in our lives.

His grace is sufficient, for His strength is made perfect in weakness. He provides the mooring point for a new identity - the center out of which a true sense of well-being can be enjoyed. As we draw close to Him, we are enabled to reflect His image in our humanity more and more fully.

The goal of our growth is the freedom to love aright: to relate intimately but non-erotically to the same sex, and to be able to address the opposite sex as a needed counterpart without fear or disinterest. As we at Desert Stream believe such love is Christ's intent for us, we affirm His capacity to carry it out in our lives, and in the lives of those who seek to be free from homosexuality.

Prayer For Humility

Prayer For Humility

O Jesus, meek and humble of heart, hear me.

From the desire of being esteemed, deliver me, Jesus.

From the desire of being extolled, of being honored, of being praised,

of being preferred to others, of being consulted, of being approved,

deliver me, Jesus.

From the fear of being humiliated, deliver me, Jesus.

From the fear of being despised, of being rebuked, of being neglected,

of being forgotten, of being ridiculed, of being wronged, of being suspected,

of being injured, deliver me, Jesus.

That others may be esteemed more than I, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.

That others may be chosen and I set aside; that others may be praised and I unnoticed;

That others be holier than I, provided that I may become holy as I should,

Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.

(Prayer for Humility taken from Presence, Prayers for Busy People)

"Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and you shall find rest for your souls." - Matthew 11:29

Understanding Homosexuality

I just came from a two-day retreat in Tagaytay City conducted by Living Waters Philippines on relational and sexual brokenness, homosexuality, and sex addiction. It was a very memorable retreat for me because I had so many realizations about myself and my struggle. I wish I could share them all here with you but I am still processing all these things inside of me.

Okay, I guess I can share some insights. In one of the workshop I attended, I threw this question to our speaker who himself lived the gay lifestyle, but has since come a long way in his healing journey and is now married. "What advice would you give to someone struggling with same sex attraction but has this desire to get married in the future?" He replied, "If you have this desire in your heart nurture it and lay it down at the foot of the Cross." His answer hit me big time and I struggled to control my emotions there. He even said a short prayer for me because he sensed that the question is somehow referring to me. He further added that those who are desirous of eventually settling down in marriage must develop a healthy relational bond with the opposite sex and that getting married does not necessarily mean being "healed" altogether. It's not a diploma that labels you as a totally healed person as the process is a continous growth and journey. I am so grateful to our speaker for giving me this insight.

During this retreat I recognized that we all have needs, specifically emotional and spiritual needs, that need to be filled up by the "right stuff" and if we don't get this we resort to alternatives like addiction to all sort of things (sex addiction in my particular case). On the spiritual plane we need to acknowledge all these things and surrender it to the Lord, but on the other hand we need to find ways, legitimate ways, to fill that need to make us whole and complete as a person.

We also need to let go of our expectation of what healing should look like. Many people, including me, at least have this mental imagery of what healing should look like and when we compare it to our present situation we often get frustrated. We were told to surrender this idea of healing and to let God hold you by the hand and guide you where He wants you to go.

I hope I can share more stuff but at this moment I'm still contemplating about all these things and how I should go about them. Meanwhile, I want to share with you a short article on the topic of Understanding Homosexuality that was given to us during our retreat. I hope this will further deepen your understanding of homosexuality.

Understanding Homosexuality
by Andrew Comiskey

Homosexual behavior is an attempt to fulfill normal needs for love, acceptance, and identity through sexual intimacy with someone of the same sex. Although the factors that contribute to the development of sexual orientation are complex and subtle, our experience suggests that one of the deepest roots of homosexuality is a break in early relational bonds. This relational breakdown can stunt the development of the individual's ability to healthily connect with others throughout life.

The security of a child depends on the three-way bond of mother to child, father to child, and the bond between the parents. Any break in these bonds can produce insecurity in the child and thus a lack of that sense of belonging and affirmation which is so vital in the development of gender identity.

If the child has an absent or an emotionally distant mother or father, he or she will feel a certain amount of vulnerability - a vague longing for closeness and protection that the parent has not been able to fulfill. In addition to this, if the young person has been sexually molested, the impact upon his or her ability to bond with others will be all the more broken. The child may detach from the parent and other significant adults in order to avoid any further hurt and disappointment. This tendency to withdraw produces fear of intimacy, isolation from others, and envy on account of what is missing; it also adds to the weight of the unworthiness and rejection that the young person is already carrying.

This leaves him or her with tremendous needs for affirmation and affection. In most instances, the attraction for the same sex begins around the age of 10; it is emotional, non-sexual, and involuntary. With sexual maturity, these needs become eroticized; sexual intimacy becomes a primary means for feeling loved and affirmed.

Hence, sexual activity offers some sense of being truly accepted. What seems to be love is received, the person extending this love is idolized, and as the pain becomes covered over with pleasure, a momentary sense of self-esteem emerges - a temporary relief from the confusion of identity.

Finding Completion

Thus, the homosexual condition is a result of the many hurts, real or perceived, that the child has suffered in the wake of broken relationships. The homosexual behavior is the activity that emerges as that "hurt child" seeks to fulfill these unmet needs for love. He or she may not know that sexual union can not impart the sense of completion and connectedness that is perhaps the most essential longing of the human soul.

The result of these efforts to meet one's needs is loneliness; the individual is left more fragmented and ill at ease than ever. In addition to this emotional confusion, the person often blames God for the hurts and for creating him or her homosexual. This hinders his or her ability to trust the Creator, and taste of the deep intimacy with Him that would provide comfort and strength in the face of as yet unmet inner longings.

(Part 2 to be continued...)

Papaya

Three days ago dad bought 9 or 10 pieces of papaya fruit. That's great. But the bad news is I am the only one who devours papaya here, so I just hope I won't get bloated and diarrheic for doing so. This prompted me to research some of the benefits one can get from eating papaya and much to my surprise there are many. Aside from being used in skin whitening products, my personal experience in eating this delectable fruit is that it regulates my bowel movement well. For other benefits of papaya, visit this site for more.

A Very Inspiring Video

A very inspiration video about the upcoming US Presidential election tomorrow. I urge everyone to watch this especially the Catholics.

All Soul's Day

Yesterday, we celebrated the Solemnity of All Saints Day. They are those who have made it to heaven and yes they are all saints, both with a big S and a little S. They are triumphant and enjoying eternal bliss in heaven. We also call them the Church Triumphant. Today, we commemorate our dear departed, who we hope are either in heaven now or are still undergoing a process of purgation in the next life. We call them the Church Suffering. They are those who died in God's friendship but are yet to be purified of their wrongdoings and sins in order for them to gain entry to heaven. Although they are suffering terribly in the purifying fires of Purgatory, they are already assured of their eternal salvation. It's only a matter of time before they will enter Heaven.

It's a consoling to know that our Church has set a day to remember them and that we as a people cherish their memories by going to the cemeteries. But apart from all this, what they really really need from us is prayer. Though your relative died many many years ago, you can never assume that they are already enjoying the Beatific Vision up above. They may still be in Purgatory and so we must continue to offer them Masses, prayers, and sacrifices for their eternal repose. This practice is a spiritual act of mercy - praying for the dead - and very very few people remember their dear departed apart from today's celebration. We are in fact all guilty of neglecting to offerer prayers for them somewhat because we assume they are already in the Lord's company when in fact they may be not.

If you want to find out how you can help the Poor Souls, you may want to join this organization (Prayer Warriors of the Holy Souls). You can visit their website at http://www.pwhs-mfi.org/. Pray for these souls and when they reach heaven they will pray incessantly for you as well. Remember, there are no ungrateful souls in Heaven.

Below is an article on dying well from caryana.org

Since death is the end of life, a good death is the finale of a good life. Everyone who lives well up to the end cannot die badly. He who lives badly will die badly and if one has never lived well, he is liable to die badly.

But how could the thief who lived a bad life end up with a good death? He lived a good portion of his life, while on the cross, in a holy manner. . .he openly defended Christ from the calumnies of the wicked and corrected his own blaspheming companion, "Do you not even fear God. . .we are receiving what our deeds deserve; but this man has done nothing wrong." He entered the vineyard late, but entered he did.

However, it is dangerous to put off conversion from sins until the end of life. Happier are they who carry the yoke of God's law "from their youth."

Let our first thesis remain that the rule of dying well depends upon the rule of living well.

St. Robert Bellarmine

"Bury my body anywhere; it does not matter. Do not let that disturb you. This only I ask - that you remember me at the altar of God wherever you may be." - St. Monica to her sons as she lay dying far from home